- a tendency to see the worst aspect of things or believe that the worst will happen; a lack of hope or confidence in the future
Its much "safer" to expect the worst as protection against the pain and disappointment of love's broken promises.
There's an easy cynicism of romantic love that permeates much of our culture; a willful dismissal, a total rejection of the possibility that a couple might maintain our current intensity across decades, let alone six months. This a the safe perspective, because what we're experiencing is perhaps rare. We are fortunate, no doubt.
However, isn't luck best defined as "preparation meets opportunity"?
If you don't expect real, life-long, inspirational, motivational, and ecstatic love in your life, you're simply not going to find it, ever. You won't see it, because you're not prepared, not creating the opportunity.
But if are you open to the souls around you, and if you cultivate an inner world of love, of loving-kindness, of compassion, if you are a LOVER OF LIFE, it seems to me, an optimist, that love will find you, because you are already in love, you are love.
Love finds me every day, and I am ready.
So, yes to optimism. :)
